A few months ago (back at the end of February), I was nervous about being in the same vicinity as an ex-friend. That in itself is a whole other thing that will not be gotten into other than what is applicable to this. Someone recommended that I listen to the audio book, The Let Them Theory, by Mel Robbins. So I did. Now with audio books, I typically have to listen to them multiple times before I hear the entire thing. I typically listen to them while I am working and I tend to zone in and out. I also have ADHD and my brain will occasionally go on vacation. Anyhow, I thought this book was amazing. The book was narrated by the author. I found her tone of voice very uplifting. She is positive, funny, and engages the listener. I later found out via Reddit, that there is come controversy surrounding her and this particular book, but I don't care. I like what I like. I liked it so much, I bought a physical copy of the book.
Anyhow, after listening to this book, I purchased a couple of her other titles. I recently started The High 5 Habit. It talked about how every morning we should high five ourselves in the mirror. It went into the science behind it creating new positive pathways in the brain (neuroplasticity). I tried it. It's a great way to start the day, I just don't recommend doing it in the rearview mirror of your car. Don't ask me how I know this lol.
I later discovered that she has a YouTube channel and lots of "podcasts" on YouTube. She has guests on her podcasts and they are all very informative. Some of these I am making notes and planning on ordering their books as well. I've developed a bit of a long list of items to read (or listen to). These podcast are usually over an hour long and go very in depth on their respective topics.
I have listened to several and have gleaned a lot of information from them that I plan on utilizing in my own self improvement. Some of my favorite videos of hers:
How to Stop Negative Thoughts and Reset Your Mind for Positive Thinking
Mindset Reset: Take Control of Your Mental Habits
It's Not Your: The Real Reason Adult Friendship is So Hard
Reinvent Yourself: Let Go of Past Mistakes & Create a New Version of You
How to Control Your Mind & Redirect Your Energy to Self Transformation
Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels Impossible & What to Do About It
I just named a few. I have listened to way more than that. Now some might say not to listen to so much from one single author/podcaster. However, I feel that she has opened up my options to numerous other individuals from them being guests on her podcasts on YouTube. I love her delivery of the information as well. I have had many lightbulb moments while listening to her material. And I absolutely love how she opens up her videos with "Hi, it's your good friend Mel." It feels more like listening to a friend than some random author. I find that to be comforting.
It was through listening to her that I heard some information, further researched it, took the information to my therapist and discovered that I have an anxious attachment style with abandonment issues. This later led to the discovery that, that had a very active role in leading to the dissolution of friendship with someone that I held near and dear (the ex-friend mentioned here).
My ex-friend once told me (generally speaking) when reading/listening to advice, etc to take the parts that pertained to what I needed and leave the rest. That is loosely paraphrasing her. So it is important to listen and take what you need and leave the rest or the parts you don't agree with. My ex-friend's advice has made me more open minded when taking in new information. But I digress. Check out this author/podcaster. You won't regret it.